How to become more confident in dating
Saying I wanted a boyfriend had a very clear underlying message- I wanted to be loved, desired, to feel good about myself, to have someone there to make me feel good about myself when I didn’t. Not surprisingly, the relationship didn’t last and it was only in the years after that I realized the reason why: I was looking outside myself for love and approval, a fatal misstep I see committed all the time.During the course of our relationship my moods were totally contingent upon the way he responded to me- a compliment would lead to exhilaration. After this relationship ended, I truly learned the value of loving myself, and I found that with my newfound confidence, I was a much happier person out of the relationship than I had ever been when I was in it.Everyone has positive attributes, from physical features to personality traits.From now on, forget what you’re lacking, or what you you’re lacking, and focus on all the incredible things that make you who you are.This didn’t happen magically, it took some work and a major attitude overall which was done using the tips listed below. Sometimes we think them to ourselves and other times we lament out load in hopes of getting some reassurance- “I’m so Fat” “I’m so Gross” “I’m never gonna be successful,” you know how the good old insecurity song and dance goes.Well from now on, stop entertaining these thoughts!but hopefully, by being patient, being cool, and being positive, you’ll create a feeling in your boyfriend that he’s LUCKY to have found such a rare and amazing woman.A woman who appreciates him, who gives him space, who TRUSTS that if he’s with you, then that’s exactly where he wants to be.
So while my IMPULSE might be to complain that my magazine was not getting the proper resources, my ACTION would be to remain appreciative and try to illustrate how content can better drive traffic and create revenue. If you know that you scare guys off with your intensity, the only answer is to STOP BEING SO INTENSE. You may still be the intense questioner who wants to lock down her boyfriend for life the instant you feel a lapse in your connection…
It doesn’t matter what other people think of you, it’s the thoughts you have about yourself that makes all the difference.
If you want to be more confident, then make a list that details what confidence looks like and act accordingly.
We are all wonderful, amazing creatures and given that, we certainly do not need a man to mirror this right back to us.
I just finished reading “Why He Disappeared.” It was extremely insightful. I was immature and headstrong, where it would have been wiser to be patient, positive, and enthusiastic.