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"My mother wasn't that happy at first, because when she found out about him, I was graduating high school and moving in with him on the other side of the country.After I moved here though, she's making an effort to be nice to him.At the time I didn't feel like I was being taken advantage of.I definitely felt like I had autonomy, but now looking back, I can see a little bit of his skittishness.So, in that respect, I guess I did feel as though I was "setting up shop" but now that I have a sense of completion and pride of who I'm with and our personal, yet, intertwined life journeys, I'm no longer a lost girl looking for some place to rent in someone else's world. Her and I moved in together straight out of high school, when I told her I was going to move in with him, it tore our friendship apart. I write her letters weekly, but she never responds. We don't talk anymore." "[It's] like being in any other long-term relationship.
It was mostly just small talk like 'how was your day? IDK I just like feeling like I have a partner and not someone who is trying to make my world revolve around them." "I dated a guy who was 11 years older than me.Instead, when they looked at me, all they saw was my young good looks. That's really all I was to them, my appearance, and that was the only thing about me of value to them. It was weird." "My boyfriend is 30 years older than me, we have been together nine years."I finally got wise and stopped dating much older guys, and if I had a time machine I'd go back and warn my younger self against doing it because in the same way it's a trope that rich guys hate it when gold diggers want them for their financial market value, I hated it that they just wanted me for my looks." "Dated someone with an 11 year age gap. One of the things I noticed with him is that he doesn't 'allow' me to do things, I am an adult and I can hang out, drink, socialise, and be friends with whoever I want to be. We don't argue over petty shit, if there is an issue we can sit down, talk it out like adults and come up with a solution (80% of the time - don't get me wrong after nine years there have been a few big blow outs).I finished high school and went straight into university, I now have a stable teaching job.During the beginning of us living together, it felt as though I was a ghost in his home; he would be busy with work, yelling on the phone and I'd just be trying to zone it all out, but [now] whenever we're together, he answers the phone and tells people he'll call them right back and that he's with someone very important.