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Men have adapted and devised a number of strategies to make the best of these difficult options, including the following:1) Becoming Attractive - one strategy adopted by some men is to become attractive, dominant, and sexually-forward.These are the guys who are often labeled "players", "macks", and "pick-up artists".If they follow what society tells them to do, they often end up "good guys" who are taken advantage of, mistreated, and disrespected.In contrast, if they follow more "assertive" biological imperatives, they are labeled "jerks" and "players"—who may get sexual gratification, but not love or respect from what they would consider a "good woman".Furthermore, they do so in a situation where women's own social instruction may reduce the very characteristics that many of these men desire.Given that, many men sit on the couch, plug in a video game, and opt out—just as Behaviorism and Skinner might predict.Overall, they report that there is often little incentive for men to date and even less for them to consider long-term commitments.
Essentially, many men report that they find modern dating a primarily punishing affair.Socially, they are expected to be "compliant" (i.e. However, they are also urged by women's sexual interest to maintain an "attractive personality" (i.e. Unfortunately, men sometimes report that attempting to balance these notions does not result in satisfaction, happiness, or women's appreciation and respect.The men that I speak with (and who commented on my last post) lament about being in a "no win situation" in modern dating.Welcome back to The Attraction Doctor Last week, I discussed why women can't find a "good" man (here).In that article, I explained my hypothesis that women are stuck in a double-bind between what they are told through modern social norms and their own biological motivation.